Destiny and Acceptance

Do you believe in the destiny? Do you believe that everything what we experience is predefined, like lots scenarios were written for life of each person on this planet… and for the planet itself? And if you believe in the destiny, can you accept yours one?


Several years ago at the cold winter evening I met one girl. She was hurrying up somewhere. I don’t remember what I was saying to her, and I don’t remember her words. The only thing that I remember is that when she started talking to me, something changed. I went into dream, the dream made of love and joy.

I had been in this dream for half of a year, enjoying the happiest moments of my life: the moments of talking together, traveling together, walking together, making something nice for her, calling by phone and waiting for the answer – everything what concerned her I did with happiness and love.

Then it finished. It was her initiative. It all ended so suddenly that I couldn’t believe. So many unspoken words left, so many unfelt feelings, so many unlived moments.

After that I changed everything in my life: I changed myself, my job, my flat, my habits, my hobbies... These cardinal changes helped me forget about her at the expense of other duties and concerns.

Several weeks ago, probably for the first time for many months, the crazy changes tempo has decreased a bit and the idee fixe started coming to my head. The idea was “What if”: “What if I could do something”, “What if we could be together”, “What if we could have a walk right now”… I even thought that maybe it was some test for us, to make us tear apart and then bring together again to make our relations even stronger.

The main thing I couldn’t understand is why everything was finished when two people were so happy with each other.

The Universe started giving the answer…

At past week I spent Sunday reading nice “History of Zadig or Destiny” written by Francois Voltaire. The main character of tale, Zadig, once met the wanderer who suggested him travelling together for a couple of days. Zadig agreed. The only condition Zadig had to accept was to be patient.

One day they were harbored by a very kind landlord who provided comfortable rooms and well fed his guests. The next morning wanderer set landlord’s home on the fire.

Next day they came to the merciful and virtuous widow, who had a fourteen-year-nephew, a beautiful young man, her only hope. Widow took them with all possible hospitality. The next morning wanderer threw the boy into the river.

“What a beast you are!” – exclaimed Zadig to the wanderer, watching at the boy trying to rescue from the rapid waters. “You promised to be patient”- stranger replied - “Find out what is under the ruins of the house, burned down by the will of providence, the owner found untold wealth, and the boy who was killed by the will of the same providence, a year later would have killed his aunt, and two years – you!”.

In several moments wanderer’s clothing as if melted and four beautiful wings covered majestic radiant body.

“Men pass judgment on everything without knowing anything”, said the angel. “Men think that the boy fell into the water by accident, that fire burned down the house just accidentally, but accidents do not exist - all in this world either the test or punishment, or reward, or presage”

OK, but what is connection to my story? Read on…

This Saturday was pretty rich for events. When finally the late evening I got home, I wished watching some movie. I had no idea which one to choose, so I took the first dvd I put my eye on. The movie’s name was “Unfaithful” with Richard Gere starring.

It told the story about successful middle age man who had wife and a wonderful son. (Strangely enough, but from the first scenes I found that his wife was very (very!) similar to my past girlfriend - similar look, behavior, treat to other people...). They lived in the country outside the big city. Man was a boss in some great company. Everything was fine when one day his wife met a bookseller, she fell in love to. The story is long, but the finish is tragic. Gere killed the wife’s lover.

I don’t believe in occasions. And I believe in some common laws to which everything and everyone obey. I believe that Universe tries making us as happy as possible by guiding us giving lots of signs. You can call it destiny, fate, providence - whatever. We just have to recognize these signs and accept them, even if sometimes we don’t understand anything.

I believe that the “Unfaithful” movie was sent me to tell me that I wouldn’t be happy with my past girlfriend. And the Voltier’s book was read to understand that it was my destiny, accept it as a fact and go further.

Then I still had a choice – whether accept this advice or decline it and still crying for that could not be returned.

There is an old proverb: “When the student is ready, the master will enter” The same to me: “I’ve got the answer of why we should be apart when I was ready to accept it”.

Now only the thing what I will say is: “Thank you for this lesson. I accept it as is. And I am now open to many new wonderful events in my life! :) ”