Does evil yield good in relations or… I just don’t understand something?

Throughout my life I have had a different sort of relationships with the opposite sex. Now it seems I’m ready to make the life lesson I wouldn’t have made. However here it is.

I always treat honestly and sincerely to any person I meet. It concerns also relationships with the opposite sex. It is my rule and principle according to which I live. However, it hasn’t been so for all my life. There was period when I was rather playing with girls, laughing at them and making them feel ashamed. I just enjoyed myself in these situations. I could previously take the phone of some nice girl on the street and forget about her (I understand now, it was cruel). Or I could just meet girl once in a cafe and not to call back again (ping back to Marina, with post “Male Phenomenon or Why He Never Called Back”). It seemed to me it was cool just to meet some girl on the street, chat to her and then forget about her. Now I understand it was cruel from my side, but wait a minute, in nearly each of such occasion, I used to receive nice smses at the following day like “How are you?” or “Shall we meet today?” or… (from the ashamed and hurted girl!)

I just couldn’t understand and can’t still understand why they were so nice to me when I wasn’t nice to them? Is there some sickening law
in the Universe that “Cruel yields kindness”? I haven’t ever heard about that.

One day, after another occasion with just another girl I realized what I was doing and then I promised to myself not to play anymore,
not to hurt anyone anymore, not to laugh over anyone.

Since then I started noticing another trend. Let’s say I meet some girl one evening. I feel we have a great time: we are talking, walking,
joking (not over anyone, just joking)… Aaaand… I don’t get any smses next day! Even more, sometimes I cannot reach her by phone!

What’s that?! Girls, do you really like when guy laughs over you or hurts you? Will you love that guy?

What a bulshit is that! The better other person treats to you, the less you get addicted to him?!!

Yeah, I have to learn a lot in this life. Hope someone will clarify me what is going on here!

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Conscious person Marina Marina

This is a common case in relations which called Cat String Theory. I wrote a life lesson on it. It works almost everythime. For those of you who don't know the theory, the cat-string theory basically describes an interaction between a ball of yarn and a cat.
When you give a cat a ball of yarn, it plays with it for awhile and has a good time. However, after 15-20 minutes or so, it gets bored and leaves the ball of yarn. It may come back to the yarn later and play with it and it may even do that several times.

That how it works Andrii!

Here is a link to a lesson about this theory

http://www.educopark.com/life-lessons/view/cat-string-theory-in-relations-and-business

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Conscious person Andrii Andrii

I appreciate your answer, Marina!
Just want to say that people are not the cats. And I have become the witness of relations when partners really loved each other for years and gladly waited for each new date each single day!

Today, the open psychological seminar has been held out at my job. We have been given the small test and it appeared that the ratio of masculine to feminine part in me is about 30% to 70%. However, it should be vice versa!
It turns out that, as usual, the reason is inside me, not is the surrounding people. If I can't find a proper girl, then probably I'm not a proper guy. So, the key is to change myself.
George Clooney my exemplar for the following couple of weeks! :)))

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Conscious person Marina Marina

I love George Clooney! Great choice!!! )))

I am not trying to say that people are cats. This is just a comparison. This is just a simple rule, when we are not allowed to get something we want it so much, when we get it, we don't need it any longer. This is not a cat but a human phychology! ))))

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