What I think is Sometimes it's escaping from responsibilities because they have no daring to be in a relationship. Sometimes , after courtship , they really find themselves inferior to the person whom they are dating.I feel their confidence is on lower side.
In my opinion , one should keep a distance from that person who says “Don’t get in love with me!” because you can not trust them anytime they need because of there low confidence coz they will not fight with any situation instead , they will make a mess of it and in the end run away.

Thanks for your advice! I think your are right that what he probably want me to do! To keep the distance!

The reasons are probably many, however, the first thing that came to mind, being an older man, experienced in life and been young once (sooooooooooooooooo long ago LOL), is that the male is basically saying, " I want you, I want everything you can offer me, but I am not ready for committment, and please don't expect that of me, once you have committed yourself to me... I still need my freedom, I want to be able to play the field, go out with my friends, etc..." You get the picture. It's not the responsibility the male is afraid of, as he believes by giving the speech " Don't fall in love etc., " he has done his part, and taken responsibility, however, he has now passed that responsibility onto you, so whatever happens now, is your fault and not his... as he (in his view) did warn you. hope this helps you Marina and any other 's :)

Most of us date several people before we find the one we want to share the rest of our lives with. But before we meet that one person, we really LIKE (or maybe even love...with a small "l") the people we date. So the very idea of letting them down, if it when it occurs to you that they may not the THE one... is horrifying. Good men want to please and satisfy, and hurting nice people is the LAST thing they want to do. So, in the early stages of dating when he doesn't know where it's going to lead, he wants to protect HER by letting her know "please, don't get into a position where it's really going to hurt you if this doesn't work out."

So, it's not usually the guy being selfish or cowardly.... it's often him looking out for her.

I don't know that it's a very wise approach, because I think it's better to live and hurt rather than hold back and don't hurt.

Do you know this Dusty Springfield song? "You don't have to say you love me, just be close at hand... You don't have to stay forever, I will understand... Believe me, believe me, I can't help but love you... But believe me, I'll never tie you down."

Marina, the key phrase, as for me is "I'm bad". If person finds himself "bad", then he will see the same "bad" in other people. Do you really need such relations?

for me .. the guy is just can't found the chemistry of you that he search for beside physical attraction.. Smart guys combine physical dan chemistry aka "connected part "...
but guys do foolish sometimes...

Sex... they do it for sex. lol

Oh.. forgot to say. Many younger men, Americans anyway, have 'learned' to say they are bad because they think many women 'go for' bad boys. Sadly. it's often true.

thing rapidly changes dear... we ready for the next level saga of relationship ..... now you can say love to girl via smart device call BB hahahha ...

Probably that might be an attempt to show his honesty(just to impress you). When somebody says that way, you should just say 'Ok then, we breakup, good bye'.. Then see his feelings, if he is right/true, he will not react by any means.

First of all a jeck never says "Don't fall in love with me". So I, personally, think the guy says this is a nice guy BUT he's not sure of if he deserves you/if you deserve him/or not sure about how committed he'll be.

I said this myself and at the end i found out...that I lacked what it required to stand by her...

I think the guy is damaged ........ He either lacks the the courage to go beyond the relm of a committed relationship... or he is already there, feeling it and not sure if you feel the same.

Hi everybody, I have a question.. i had a relationship with a guy ... i love him .. but i have to go back to my country . i though we will keep in touch but , he doesnt text me or call me at least i do it .. Tonight i send him a text message saying that i love him and i miss him .. he answer me "Miss you too... please dont make it harder to me"... what is he trying to say me???? he wants that I stop to text him because he doesnt love me ... i dont understant... i dont text him every day ... because i dont want he feels unconfortable .. but i really want to know what he is trying to say ... :(

@Jovial n Marina,
Thank you very much for your advice, I already bought a ticket to go to c him... i had them for the last weekend and i talked to him to said that i was going to cancel, but then, i just changed my trip to october 1 - 3... I have friends there to get fun .. but im really scared to c he doesnt care... He is not in the same city ... so he knows when i will be there... he must to drive 40 min to c me If he wants... (i will take a plane one hour and half). After to c he doesnt cares... i must have to forget him..