Friendship - My experience
Well, Where exactly to start. Friendship is something a silken tie of love. It needs the person to have empathy, sympathy, trust and honesty. Love is one of the big stuff that we all need to share with all. That’s what all the religion wants us to do. I’m not getting in to a religious talk over now..!!Friendship is the one which doesn’t have any limits. It doesn’t matter how, where and when we make friends. But we should love our friends and should be lovable.
In the process of making friends and being with you may need up to face lots of people with different traits. We can never and ever expect everybody like you. If so the world will contain only the Xerox I mean photocopies of you. That’s really disgusting, isn’t?
I have a gang of friends to hangout, roam, share happiness and sadness. One main thing friends are not only to share your happiness but also to give shoulders when you are in really need of it..! I damn sure that all won’t be of the same kind. It has both the ends.
I would like to quote one example over here. Just a cooked up story.. There was a gang of 5 guys usually to hang out and go to bars and pub and were enjoying life. They get to know a new guy who also needs to be a friend of them and have fun. But this new fellow is not up to the expected level of what they are. But they all just talk with this guy. He thought that they are our friends. He trusted them and shared all his happenings. But they are not true in their friendship. They are slandering about that guy and teasing at the back. When he is there those guys are honey tongued. This fellow believed all those stupid words of them.
One among those five got in to one big problem and was badly in need of help. Nobody was ready to help him. They don’t even think about the guy in trouble. You can understand now why I mentioned “gang of 5 guys” in bold letters just to emphasize on they are not friends just a gang. The other guy joined later tried much to help the guy in trouble. The stuff of friendship is, “doesn’t matter how many you have around you, the matter is how many true and best friends you have among them”
Friendship never kills..!! It always saves..!!
A real epitome for that is I am who experienced it. Really it’s true. Once in my childhood I don’t know swimming. We went to one lake near by to pass time and swim. My friend said you just watch me swimming for this day. I will try to arrange some one to teach you swimming tomorrow. I was sitting and watching them. My friends bet each other to swim under water for some time to reach some target. One stranger came and sat near me and started talking to me. He asked why you are sitting. Why don’t you swim? While, your friends are doing that. I said I don’t know swimming and I scare to jump in without knowing it. He told me that, “Scare is the only thing if you take out of that you will and can swimming like that. I said ok. After sometime he just pushed me inside. I’m sinking and getting back and drinking water. I saw the stranger standing and laughing at me. My friends went bit inside to enjoy deep water swimming. At last my friend plunged in to action and dragged me to one end and rescued me. I was an unforgettable and an embarrassing moment too..!!
So love to make friends and better be truthful to them to sustain them to keep you on their hearts.
Don’t argue with friends. Just adjust and let them to correct it later. One wise saying is there “If you argue with your friend you can win the situational argument but will loose the friend definitely”
Win the hearts..!! and stay in them..!!
-Vinay
