Living with a spouse.

He leaves his socks around, he gets so into his movie he can't hear you calling. He works past 6pm and has this habit of eating too much bread, which is not necessarily healthy. He snores. He won't do dishes. He is often critical of my cooking. I complain about it all... but does he listen? Nope.

But wait! Flash back and reminders to Self:
He is a hard worker and provides for his family.
He is complimentory when I've succeeded a great meal
He picks up the table after supper
He occupies our 3 year old so I can take a breather
He suggests a night at the pizza place when we've had a tough week
He makes a pretty delicious chai latte in the evenings....

A widow recently made a comment that shifted my perception, she said  "I would love to see his dirty socks lying around everywhere, beacause that would mean he is here".

So yes, when the annoying aspects arise, I embrace them, for they are as much a reminder that he is here with me as the enjoyable aspects he offers, which reminds me that he is here for me.
 
Lesson learned? Life with a spouse is never always bliss - but it's better than being on a ship and facing stormy weathers alone. 

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Conscious person olena olena

It is true, we don't appreciate what we have. Thank you for remind this.

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Conscious person Marina Marina

can't add nothing but agree! so true! the only thing is that those things do not annoy so much when you are in love him....the moment you start asking yourself whether is it he, you start notice all the small things, that does not mean anything.

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Conscious person Natalie1968 Natalie...

Nope. and Yup. That is to say the "in love" emotion will fade to some extent, while I still love my husband, it's not that "emotion" as when you first meet and get to know each other.

Now it's better, cause the love I feel is down to earth and solid not fluffy, frivolous, airy,flying your head in the clouds, hardly touching the ground cause you're so head over hills in love with him. Now it's the real thing with the real realisation that your prince has flaws that will annoy you, and when they do, you bring yourself back to remembering all the wonderful reasons why you love him in first place.

See? Love then grows stronger as you do that ;)

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