Hi Natalie....Ive been reading your posts for sometime now...You have written so many positive things about overcoming and sticking it through rough and tough times. I urge you not to lose hope.

I know I am not in a position to even begin to understand the feelings that you are currently going through. But let me assure you that me and everyone else in educopark and others who see your posts are praying for the well being of you and your kid. Time is a great healer.... Sail through these times... Just incase it is very tough for you, please consider talking to a trusted friend or even a counselllor. They DO help a lot. They are professionals and give very good advices... Anyway, for love and support, you have all of us at the educopark family with you. Please share your feelings with us here as we are here to help each other out. :)

Thank you Santosh.

My story seems to be similar to many other people's story lately. I have talked with others who are or have gone through the same thing. We had been trying over a year to give our 3 yesr old a little brother and sister, and were rejoiced months ago to finally discover we were expecting. After various important tests, such as the amnio. We now know that the fetus is afflicted with trisomy 18 chromosonal defect. This is a severe form of retardation causing a baby to be still sorn or of it does live for how ever long, 95% of time up to three months, it spends the days in and out of hospital, hooked up or operated on.

After great thought and struggle, we wopted to terminate the pregnancy which doesn't make the loss any easier, in fact somewhat harder as we are the ones cutting the process of this fetus reaching a full term. But we felt it was best for our now 4 year old and the trauma she might feel seeing and loving her baby sister only to then not have her anymore.

Many friends have offered words of comfort, counsellers offered their words of expertise, spiritual people offered words of wisdom and distant caring people offered their listening ears. But all the peace that came my way through their words was momentarily.

LESSON LEARNED?

Only nine words can be spoken in times like this, nine words that bring ultimate acceptance and in turn peace and sanity.And these words are:

"it is what it is, this too shall pass"

When a blazing fire is behind you and you're at the edge of a high cliff staring at a scary narrow bridge linking you to the other safer side. You have no choice than face that fear and cross that narrow bridge.

:(( thank you again for you kind words, know that they helped.

I am happy that my words offered solace to you. I really admire the amount of courage that you have. You are surely a great source of inspiration to me and to many others in educopark. I sincerely pray that these traumatic times fizz out soon and that there be happiness abound in your life and in everyone near and dear to you. :)

Dear Natalie,
There is a proverb "Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow".
Thank you that you shared your pain with us. I hope that each EducoParker will take at least tiny particle of your pain to relieve it...
...and hold on, as you said, "this too shall pass"

Dearest Natalie,
James Buckham once said, "Every trial endured and weathered in the right spirit makes a soul nobler and stronger than it was before." I appreciate your honesty in sharing your "trial" with us. We can't always understand why such sad things happen, but we do have a choice in how we deal with them. You have a beautiful spirit and you and your family will make it through this.
Barb

Dearest Natalie, You are one of the strongest and most unselfish persons I know. You are making very difficult decisions. Trust yourself. You are a very smart woman. God is with you. He is carrying you. He will continue to supply the strength you need to get through each and every difficult day. You are in my prayers. Karen

Dearest Natalie, You have to be "One of the Strongest and Most Courageous Women in the Whole World right now" and I admire you for making the very hard decision that you had no choice, but to make. Please KNOW that you have A LOT of friends and loved ones that really care about you and offer OUR SUPPORT to you, especially at this time. "Keep the Faith" and you will get through this in time. Know in your heart, that "YOU DID THE RIGHT THING". YOU'LL SEE, YOU WILL WIND UP HAVING MORE STRENGTH THEN YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU COULD HAVE". God Bless You Always... Sharon

Dear Natalie.
I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. But now you will have a little angel always watching over you.
Lots of hugs to you girl! Hug your 4 year old and know that everything happens for a reason even if we don't know what that is.

Dear Natalie, God is very near to you and with you. God gives pain only to make her dearest people more strong in times to come. I can understand the pain that you are passing through and am sad that nobody else can share that with you in real terms. God bless you.

~Jai

sorry to hear that
wishes from china

No words could possibly describe the pain and sadness I felt when I heard about you baby dear.May God Grant you all the strength and patience during this time.
Safa'

Dear Natalie, I can understand what you are going through but please be courageous and try to accept the situation ,entire educopark family is with you.as you said "it is what it is, this too shall pass" just believe it.God is with you.

You are all so amazing, and truly your words do bring comfort. I never thought in my life that I would experience this.

Thank you so so much for your words, you will never know how a sudden wave of despair can calm down, just by logging in my email and seeing the different messages left by each one of you.

The power of compassion, I am feeling it and believing in it.


The sorrow is slowly lifting. And I am also finding great release in writing.

I wrote the following, one early morning this week and had left it on my desktop, I finally decided to post it as a little story. It is my way of seeing and dealing with my personal situation.

http://www.the3keysoflife.com/

Hi Natalie, I'm sorry to hear that, I know that it must be tough for you. I don't think that God gives any pain, but he gives hope when we are through difficult situations. For times like this, you can find some hope in the Bible (Rev. 21: 3,4). Hope it helps.
Best wishes from Spain

hi
me i think dat this is the most hardness thing that can happen to a women.....ya......being awainting 4 an baby n finally loose it!!!!but personaly i'll prefer to go along bkoz the sadness wl kill mi insinde.......datr no1 on earth wuld understand ze huge hole insind.....certainly ze sorrow wil slowly lifting.....but im sufering of his absences...i cnt manage it animore......it 2mch tough 4 me......inid suport.....

Dear Natalie,

I can imagine what might be going in your mind.

Someone up in the sky is testing your faith towards him.

Always believe that tough time never lasts, but tough people last. These days will also go.

Through your posts, you have always given strength to others, God will definitely help you in this situation. Have faith in him.

Be positive. I know its easy to say, but God bring calamities to those who can face or those who are brave & not to the weak.

God Bless you Natalie !!!

Kindest Regards,

Chaitanya

Hi Natalie,hope everything is fine...want u back on educopark at the earliest.

I'm back. And getting ready to write a newest lesson.... thank guys for having been here with your kind and wise words.

Hi Natalie...welcome back.... waiting eagerly to read ur new post... :)

assist you all to buy from factories in china or to set up enterprises here soon

Thanks!