Male Phenomenon or Why He Never Called Back

Few experiences are more disappointing and frustrating to a woman than meeting an attractive, interesting guy, going out with him, liking him, and even ending up sleeping with him to only never hear back from him after that. I hear this kind of story over and over - "We went out. He seemed to be really into me, he was all over me, and we spent an incredible night together, but I haven't heard from him since. Why do guys do that? I thought he liked me! I did not want it to be a one-night stand".

I have gone through this myself recently. Really, I used to think I’m not the kind of girl taking guys too serious. I have never been in such situations before. We went out and had a great time talking he looked very interesting and … very interested in me. We had a great conversations, I felt at ease and it was almost like I have known him for years. He looked very enthusiastic about getting to know me and treated me nice. That was very flattering and indeed made me feel special. He got my number and we met several times more during the next weeks and exchanged sms during the day. Judging by his attention and his interest when he met me, I was sure that this means something for him.

Then suddenly he stopped answering sms and pick up the phone. A day, two and three went by but I haven’t heard from him. I can’t help but wonder - why would a guy go through all that work of talking to you, would look so interested in you and not even bother to call you. Is he playing games and is just waiting before he calls? I was trying to persuade myself that something might have happened and he will call later.

A week or so later, however, it becomes obvious that he is not going to call. But why - why do guys do that? It have been much easier for me if he told me he is not into it or showed it somehow, but he didn’t. He is not the last guy in my life, but you got this unpleasant aftertaste in such situation. The last stupid thing I did I called his friend to find out maybe there WAS the reason. I asked: How is he? Is everything ok with him? He said that he talked to him few days ago and everything seemed ok. This was not a pleasant thing to hear. That momemt I wished he better lost his phone and had his hands broken not being able to dial my number. )))

I would like to shed some light of honest reality of what motivates such male behavior. If nothing else, understanding this behavior should help any woman, if not avoid, at least handle this experiences better. 

This study has revealed two primary reasons for this “phenomenon:”

1. It takes all of us a certain amount of time to truly absorb our impression of a person we met and realize whether or not we want to see him / her again. Think about it - I am sure this happened to you as well. You would meet someone, like him a lot, feeling exciting about seeing him again, but the next day - he didn’t even cross your mind. Some say that it takes us anywhere from 12 to 24 hours to form our true opinion on anything new that we have learned. There must be a lot of truth to that and it certainly applies to guys when they meet a woman for the first time. One man might find you very sexy, attractive and interesting as he is talking to you partially because he had a bit to drink, partially because he is horny, and in part because it’s exciting for a guy to approach a woman at a bar and “test” his “weapons of mass seduction.” The day after he might not even think about the woman he met the night before, or he might be thinking about another woman who he met shortly before or after you and who he liked much more. This is just the nature of things.

2. As bad as it sounds, many “single” guys in bars are not “single.” Many of them are married or have girlfriends. They are looking to hook up but their circumstances don’t always allow them to be able to do that. Many of them live with their partners or are in close proximity to them, so that the most they can do when out is validate their egos by proving to themselves that they still can get a woman interested in them. Those are cruel and selfish acts but they are also the ones in which unavailable men often engage. My Life Lesson: If he doesn’t call, smile and be happy and let it go. Don't be mislead by a guy's affection, and don't judge his intentions about you based on how much you think he is attracted to you at one given evening when you are out It is most likely for your own best because the most likely reasons he didn't call were because he was either not interested or unavailable. Either way, you come out a winner not having your time, energy, and emotions spent on unworthy situations with men.