Andrii
Do you prefer the freedom in relations with your beloved?As for me, I'm surely prefer having some space for my own. It is nice to be close to your partner (I mean mentally), but who said calling, messaging with make you any closer. I personally often feel annoyed, as there are not so many space for your own in the modern life, when my partner start pushing me to stay on line with him the whole day. I'm not the one who likes to call my partner every time I do not know what he is doing or where he is. Love is all about dreaming and waiting (when you lean to meet your beloved in the evening after the long working day and say to him how much you love him) and not about sending dozen messages like "where are you?" or "why you are not answering my sms". There definetely should be some space for secret and intrigue in relations.
I totally agree with you. I'm annoyed when ANYONE calls "just to keep in touch," tries to keep you on the phone but after the first few seconds, really has nothing relevant to say.
Oh, I think I disagree on this one (if I am allowed) I like when people keep in touch and call just to say hi. I get tired of people calling only when they need something or have some bad news to give.
IN this modern world, people are more distant and separated, and a call to keep in touch is a warm way to say "i care - you matter"
I meant not a call once in a while...I don't mind about such calls myself, but about every hour calls, when your partner or boyfriend knows you are at work, but still calls you to check and to talk to you and if you are not picking up the phone start calling until you finally answer the call then blaming you for not being able to find a time for him. ))))
I wish to spend some time with her...But she always want some space...& I have to tolerate it.
She wants some space only because she feels you want to steel it from her...let her free and she will not need this space and come to you herself. You know we always want what we do not have, when we have it, we does not need it any more.
Basalam, then give her twice the space she wants, and then watch her running to you! ;)
But it's a game really. If you really love being with someone, you won't feel suffocated when together a lot, and you won't feel insecure when there is space.
Maybe the best partner for you is yet to come....
But some times I'm really sad.
Some people are like cats. Unlike dogs who jump up and lick us all over, the moment we walk in the door, cats do as they please. It's their nature. With most cats, if you try to cuddle and pet them, their first reaction is to twist and try to get away. But, if you ignore them and go about occupying yourself with your own interests, you'll find your cat will come to you... purring and rubbing its head against you, inviting you to stroke him/her.
Well, practice shows that to have some freedom is always better for relations…and now I’m starting to realize this…You just have to understand that loving a person means not to keep him/her near You as a some thing but to enjoy Him/Her as a separate part who fills You and enjoy yourself with Him/Her, be grateful this person for whom He/She is making You when you are together….Yes, I’m for the freedom…anyway I have to be sure that I’m the only!!! One and my beloved can count on the same….TRUST is a separate question in relations but also truly important….
As a person who doesn't mind at all occupying my time alone but gets along well with others, when someone declares they "need" me... I run the other way. I never feel as though I've abandoned them. Why? Because most likely, they "need" the next one too.
"Because most likely, they "need" the next one too"
I like that statement!
why are people who seem aloof also seem more desirable?
This is a reflection on you Princess, you must be someone who loves a great challenge ;)
I also wonder why...it always happen the same..when you seemed not interested in someone..he leans to you...as soon as you showing your interest you switch the places..hate it about relations..or it is my fault it always happen this way?
Oh no it's not your fault Marina, but look at it as a sign that it is simply not mutual, you have not yet come across the one who is right (for you). I experience this many times, when I had an interest, he did not, when someone showed interest in me, I ran and very fast!! - but it's just because they were not the right guy for me, today I look back and OMG I laugh. But it was experiences that help me grow to know myself better.
Sometimes I was down on myself, and blamed myself but that was silly and waste of energy. Be confident in any relation no matter which way in ends. Remember to look out for those "signs"
Yes, I have gone through the same feelings. Why?! Do all people evaluate and show appreciation to the other person when they feel that they can lose this person?! and may be...sometimes it is tooo late, because they have already lost their last chance and the person is already gone and would not come back at all.
i agree.. marina.
they started behaving as if we are UNWANTED :(
I like to tald with my beloved every moment and its not mandatory that he/she should provide me space. But wish to be available anytime whenever my beloved needs me.
wow - for me the more distant he is the less chance of intimate anything for him. i get grossed out if he isn't available half the time. because then I figure he's a slut. because anyone who isn't showing that they miss you or love you other than just saying it, in my opinion, is not really there for you. and if i give it my all- which i do... i expect at least half that in return. I like knowing someone's there thinking about me wishing we were hanging out = I wouldn't think it was so if the person used premeditated distancing :P sorry - my 2 cents :) nice topic---but then again i heard on a talk show that they are debating if some people have a gene that determines if you'll be monogamous or practice polyamorus or something...
I used to miss my boyfriend when he was busy to work for another company. Now he starts his own company and is managing it from home which it means that he has huge of time to spend with me. But then my feeling is just like fading away and it's like I start to hate him that he asks me to keep in touch with him in every single seconds he takes in his life except when he is sleeping.
yes,relationship is very hard and tiny thing! and sometimes is too hard, or to say exactly we do this relationship too hard! sometimes we must just enjoy them! and always will be moments when y can feel that this end...or smt like this! and it's normal, all we people!
but ab freedom...i am for it! cause all we have some things which make y unic! and this things and y smt need spear!
