Andrii
What is Love for You?For me it's both biochemical processes and state of soul. One cannot separate two of them, as they are intercorrelated. I have been in love, but I still searching for my life long love! I believe it should be somewhere on the Earth and I would definetely find it!
Hi ANdrii, Marina, here's my take on your question:
Love is not a feeling, for me it is verb, an action. Notice that when you start behaving lovingly, the feeling of love will grows. In a long term relationship or marriage, tthose early strong feelings will not stay same. As long as you behave lovingly toward your mate, the feeling of "i'm in love" maintains and grows. When you start nagging and focussing on problems and be critical, love fades - can even die. In a marriage or long term relation, when things are rough, remember all the good things about him or her that you liked and behave lovingly for Love is a verb, love is action.
It's interesting!
You mean, that Love is some kind of state.
And only you (well, I :)) can choose whether to be in this action or not, correct?
No body can escape from the feel of Love..its natural..no choice for humans. When you look at a poor person who is hungry for a long time, you will get surely a pityness feeling, we feel that it just a pity, but the origin from which this pitiness is generated is love. If by any means little passion is added to this, then you cannot stop yourself from helping him.
We think that, feeling pity is optional, but actually not. We feel love many times on many things without any much work/thinking.
Love is not objective, it is just subject itself. Everything revolves around it. No body will feel love. Love makes you to feel indeed. We dont behave lovingly, Love makes you to behave that way. In this material world, for every action, there will be reason. If you say that reason it self is an action, then certainly we are not correct. Reasons causes action. action causes results.
Just for understanding sake, you would have watched movie "Original Sin", How love can cause events, shown in the movie greatly. This movie was based on some famous novel "Waltz into Darkness ". Of course it just movie, some times a good picture is worth of 1000words, isn't it?
its difficult to explain, i love my mom (she died 9 years ago), i love my wife, i love my brothers and sisters, i love my family, i love sight seeing. i cannot explain it. i guess its a feeling?
Osho has very interesting idea about love.
He says that every person can truly love only himself (to be exact, his subconscious half - feminine for men and masculine for women).
When we find partner whom we seem to love, it's only echo of true love to thyself - says Osho.
At the past weekend I has been in some strange state when I seemed to love each person I saw!
After that I think that the real love is when you aceept and love yourself entirey and by yourself you love each person you meet or see.
That is true, when you're fine with yourself and content and happy with you, you see the "perfect soul" in others and how then can you feel anything else but love for them.
I guess there are different types of love, I was in an earlier post focusing on "love" between mates, rather than a universal type of love. But come to think of it, perhaps it is one and the same, isn't it?
Andrii
Thats true spiritual love when you start loving everything you see, it is actually reflection of purity of our own soul which makes us LOVE truely everything around us.May God bless you.
For me, love is when I hear something funny, and my very very first thought is I can't wait to tell her about it!
You defined it brilliantly!
When I used to love someone, I could not resist myself from calling her to share some great news or just cheer her up!
I think, Love is nothing but a Close Friendship ...
The difference between love and close firendship is the absence of passion in frienship!
passion and love are just like essence and fragrance. On any materialistic life, these two work together but not alone. Without passion love cant be experienced. Similarly, without love, passion is meaningless.
friendship, marriage, motherhood all are these just like objects where you put that essence/fragrance to make relation more liking/joyful.
For me, it may not be appropriate to compare Love and friendship. Love is an experience(may be more than that). Friendship is just a relation like other relationships in this world.
I agree a lot with Natalie. Let me first be clear so y'all don't think I'm some sort of overly-serious stiff that I love love... the romantic feel butterflies in your stomach kind of love... that love that thinwizzyfit describing so nicely above. But to me that is not "real" love. Love is not a feeling to me, it is a decision. I believe that buying into the "feeling" thing too much is why there's so much divorce and waiting until middle age to get married. Inevitably, we lose that "feeling" at times and we need to remember and understand why we decided to fall for that person in the first place.
Sorry, it may not be so "fairy tale" but since I've come to understand this, my wife (who is by far my closest friend) and my marriage has been getting better and better and better!!!
Hmmm... I need to think a little more on Osho's opinion.
I hope Y'all have a Great day!!!
Chris
Geez... must have wrote that way too quickly... sorry for the grammar. :-)
I'm discovering the tendency that in most marriages when couple is really happy, husband and wife are rather close friends than passionate lovers.
I see the same applies to your marriage, Chris, doesn't it?
Love is a understanding or knowing the other person. Love cannot be explained in words, ITs a sweet feeling which everyone in life have to experience. Love is divinity for me
Love is a canvas furnished by nature and embroidered by imagination.
For me , Love is missing someone when he/she is not around , thinking about someone doesn't matter when he/she is around or not and with whom you find yourself comfortable.
Love for me is a emotional attachment that progresses into a dependence on that person for happiness, joy, to feel secure or comfortable with etc.
It's ability to grow hatred to every living being when you see a drop of tear in her eyes...
